Being a dad does take someone special. Because it takes time and sacrifice. You have to give up some stuff for your kids. To be there and to spend time with them doing the things they like to do, making memories and teaching them the skills they need for life. Playing catch, going swimming or fishing. Coaching their team or simply showing up for all the games. Buying their first car with them. Showing them how to write a check. Playing dolls with your daughter (Hey that won me a pie once) or when they are older taking them shopping at the mall without mom. ( I actually love this one) Doing homework, picking them up from school or work (It doesn't always have to be mom). Teach them to drive. (Yikes!) Listen to what bothers them. Be supportive in the difficult times. The list can go on and on but hopefully you get the picture. Perhaps the most important thing we can do as a dad is model Jesus. Let our children see his power lived out in us. Let them know that our great wisdom comes from His greater wisdom. These are the things a dad will do.
Dad we may not be able to do all these things all the time but we should do our best. Give up a day of golf, a little sleep. Don't stay so late at the office. Sure you have to provide but in the end your time spent with your kids will have greater and longer lasting value. Our children grow up so fast. Before you know it you will be looking back on what you once may have thought was a big hassle as now a wonderful memory. Too many fathers are absentee. And that includes the ones who live with their kids. Don't let that happen to you. It's a big responsibility. Rise up to it and give it your best effort.
Today will be my first Father's Day without my son Michael. I will miss him. It won't be the same. But I have the memories. The memories of going fishing, coaching his little league teams, watching and cheering him play football, listening to some of his crazy ideas and so much more. That took some time and sacrifice. I'm glad I did those things with him. I'm glad to have those memories. I'm glad I did those things with Matt and continue to do so even though he is an adult. I'm glad I do what I do with Bethany as well.
So dads don't stop doing what your doing even if you think it doesn't matter. Because it does. To them. They may say otherwise but they want you in the stands cheering. They're looking for you. They may shrug off the advice today but be back to thank you tomorrow. Keep making memories and handing out the advice. They need it and want it. Don't just be a father , be a dad.
Happy DADS Day Dad!
Until next time,
Pastor Paul
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